If this sounds familiar, it is because, in the great tradition
of Herb Caen and Jon Carroll, I am recycling my thirteen
previous Thanksgiving messages. I missed two years; last year I was so
busy printing a blog entry celebrating Thanksgiving in Mali
with Marlow that I forgot my own message.
It is funny what a difference two years make. In 2010, we were
all in Oregon with my dad. Now that both my parents are gone, we
probably won't ever spend another Thanksgiving in Oregon. This year the
dinner will be in Orinda; my wife and
daughters,
and my nephew. A cozy group of five around the glass table in the dining
nook. Vicki has to work the week of Thanksgiving, but this
year will not be doing a
bunch of volunteering for Amma's visit, because this year Amma isn't
coming to San Ramon. My older daughter starts a new job on
Nov. 19.
But for the sixth time, I have the whole week off. I pay for
it at the
end of the school year, which is now the second week of June instead of
the first.
I know I have a lot to be thankful for. I have a job that
still gets better every year, I have my health, such as it is, and I
have my family. I can't imagine why I would bother getting out of bed
each morning if not for my wife and my two girls.
Regular readers know that. after 27 years as a journalist, I
earned my teaching credential and now
teach 8th grade US History at a middle school. It is still true that I
have not been this excited and challenged since 1974, when I started
working as a professional journalist. This is my tenth year teaching.
Each year
gets easier, and I get better, but it never gets easy. (as Kent
Peterman puts it).
Still, my most important role is as husband to Vicki and
father to my daughters, the older one going to work for the Small
Business Administration, the younger working on a degree at Mills
College.
I think we all lose perspective sometimes, forget what's
really important. We get wrapped up in our jobs and spend too much time
working on them, both at home and in the office.
The years I spent full-time with my girls (I worked from home)
are priceless. The
time I spend with them now is priceless as well. Not everyone
can work in a home office--and I don't anymore.
But no matter where you work, the next time you have to make
the tough call between the meeting and the soccer game, go to the
soccer game. You'll never regret it. I am thankful for my family. Be
thankful for yours.
Also give thanks for your friends and your good fortune.
Spread that good fortune around in any way you can. I have much to be
thankful for this holiday season, as I have had every year of my life.
I am thankful that I have a loving
brother. I am thankful for my loving and understanding wife, and for
the two most wonderful daughters I could have imagined, both of them
turning into vibrant, intelligent young women before my very eyes.
I am thankful for every sunrise and sunset I get to see, every
moment I get to be in, every flower I try so desperately to stop and
smell. I am thankful that I can move closer every day to living a life
in balance. Every morning, I am grateful to be alive. Not a bad way to
start the day. For reasons I don't want to detail, I am extremely
grateful just to be alive.
I am thankful for 240 pounds; down 60 from my peak. I am
thankful for
the fact that I will still be near that weight next year at
Thanksgiving.
Every week at St. Stephen's Episcopal Church in Orinda, the
priest concludes the service with this homily. The provenance seems
uncertain; the Internet lists several attributions. All I know is, it
touches me every time I hear it and is sound advice for life:
"Remember that life is short and we have too little time to
gladden the hearts of those who travel the way with us. So be quick to
be kind, make haste to love, and may the blessing of God be with you
now and always."
It has been with me. I hope it is with you. In the meantime, I
am thankful, finally, for each and every one of you reading this
column. I hope you have a great Thanksgiving!